say no by not using the word no *(business talk)

Hey, čau, hoi, aloha and so on! 
Been a while, but here I am , back in my writing mood...
Had to meet an interesting Person not too long ago, and have to admit- inspiring meeting!
And made me think of something...
You know, tele-marketing , a difficult job, but, it is a very interesting job, where You as an individual can learn so much, You just have to take it.
Most young business people have learned, that they have to fight against that little word NO! so badly , to make it big in this ruff World of Business. 
No! Nē! Nein!  no matter which language, sounds so aggressive and mean! You hear it a lot and slowly start believing: "No, my idea is not good, No people don't want to Tender with me, No I can not make it big", well Yeah , a simple no! Is harsh to hear... (and here comes up the experience I learned from Outsourcing my vocal abilities) No! a simple NO! is not a harsh let down to you, 
That No! is insecurity or bad knowledge of what You, Your Business is doing!
in Business there is no word as NO!
A No actually means:

• Not enough knowledge of what you offer and how it works
• Bad timing for a call/meeting
• unanswered questions *(funny enough, these questions You have to ask, because, this part goes hand in hand with the 1st point)
• Person is a slow thinker
• Old-school *(Yes, old-school, people who are actually afraid of innovative ideas, of unique thinking)

Yes these are actually the reasons of the word No!, because People are too lazy too think, sometimes too arrogant.
 When You have a Young Business and You strongly believe in it, don't let down Your Guard and efforts, because someone said NO!
Some may think, No! Santa Chioma is wrong. *(and here I will sow an example, what You can modify and use for Your business)
- Ok, I agree maybe I am wrong, but for me to be able to agree, that I am wrong, please explain- why am I wrong with this idea?
- You are too Young, to understand.
- Well maybe You are right, but You have to agree, a persons Age is not the reason to think, that that what he/she says is wrong, You must agree, that every opinion can be Right and Wrong at the same time.
- Well at this point You are Right!
- See there fore, my Idea can not be just wrong, it is also Wright, just You have to take , what will work in Your case, think about it and give it a try, Right?
- Well if You look at it this way, then Yes, You have a point!
-See I am very pleased, that we agreed on some point, It is just my opinion, but if You take a little time and think it trough, I am saying kinda the truth, Right?
-Yes...

So here is a small example , how you can make somebody think of Your business when You introduce it to a potential Partner or investor. SOME may still say No- but if You ask the Right Questions, You will be able to translate the word No! to make sure for next steps, for others to say Yes for You and Your Business

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Good <----->Bad

Salut! Had a long pause on my writing mood, ok truth is , I  was kinda lazy but we all have that little fluffy , nice, annoying guy in us who says- "Ahh... not today , tomorrow is also a day " :D Yeah, he kinda got me too, but I don’t want to talk about that super cool and chilly guy- Laziness (that's the name I gave my little lazy monster).

Gotta say some things have popped up my mind recently, but I will just divide 'em into parts, Today gonna talk about... ta ta da rammm.... Good ! :) <------> Bad!:( logic ?- None !!! 

You know why? Lets see-

We go to school, we learn, we find a job, we live , we die... simple right? uhmmm , nope, lets look at it..

School... Since we are small we learn. We go to Kindergarten to learn how to interact, we study others, learn simple things... we progress and start going to school(ohhh yeah some big boy/girl stuff gonna happen!!! --- well not really ) while we are in school, we still have to listen to what others believe are good, right, we learn how to think like others....??? how can we be unique but think like others.... honestly... who can that?

Well I remember. I was In Kindergarten and we had an assignment where we had do draw a boogie man - I did, I  didn't allow anyone to snatch my idea or to push on theirs  ... I drew mine- a little creepy ghost  (I WAS ALWAYS AWARE THAT THINGS THAT SCARE OTHERS ARE CUTE TO ME, BUT WHAT SCARES ME ARE CUTE TO OTHERS..... damn A butterfly!!!!- ALMOST GOT A HEART ATTACK... DAMN THOSE BEASTS!(yup that is my fear :D )))

all the other did, that what the nanny did- an eye... man really an eye??? how can that be a boogie man ?? seriously an eye??? :D 

Looks a bit like what I did :D

well long story short.... It ended to that my mates started dissing me on how i did not do what the teacher said we should do....khem , then those duded from "monster ink."where also terrible at kindergarten :D 

/but yeah... that is one part... the envy of others because you did different....painful!

 hmm but about teachers? 

Well I remember me and a close mate of mine, who I am still friends (she was my witness on my wedding day, and all-trough I don't have so much time to keep in touch I believe she will always have a special place in my heart, thanks Arta!!!) we were having those books where you learn how to write and so on.... we kinda finished it faster *(in fact she did it in a day, I-3!).... 

-*Yup we do have supper brains *  what I kinda didn't understand and let my self go.... but am back on track!! :)-

well remember, had to hear from our nanny that :"those too smarty pants are bored at class and make others feel less good about their skills".... 

emm what? you have in your group of like 20 people of 4 year old little poopers,2 or 3 who have talants and you complain about it?.... seriously you ladies have some issues :D 

That's one. I belive in school every one had this- when I grow up I will be... I will do this and this....

but when you have to do the steps, what happens? mostly You get scared,WHY? because it is different from what you are aware off in your community , environment, family... You step back, and keep your cherished dreams locked deep in your little blood pumping device what romantics seem to call- Heart... 

hmm but to those who are not afraid of doing that what they love.... what happens?- they get hated, people tell 'em they will never succeed, they will never be abble to step out and make a living.... that is like-"You don't do like the mass-?--- Fuuuu, You bad! Foooh go shame on you!" some break at that point. Some get stronger but just some. Because to think differently is scary... and it is good! 

You just have to prove, that not only white in a wedding is good, but also blue, red, pink, black, latex... (ok latex maybe behind closed doors! :D ) is also good then you are on the Right track!!! and Actually this good thinking-----bad thinking is the big problem for teenagers, yup it is, believe me, been trough it!But that are just school years.

Job. Hmm society says, get a job, a stable job. It is better, to have less but be sure, than try for the big one and maybe loose.... Yeah... there are those underpaid people who complain all the time. If You try something new, something fresh, funky... well, the feed back mostly will be- no, you risk, this wont sucseed, this wont work, You CRAZY???!!!.

And actually, that is depressing, because this mass sheep reaction is been followed by people from school times... But guess what ???

 I risked, I changed me, I believed in my dreams, I did fall and hit my self real hard (felt like broke all my bones)... but you know what? now I am happy, I am successful, I do what I never imagined , because people around me said- it wont work, you wont earn enough... and I just wanted to prove- NO! I believe in it, so it will work!!

I have an extremely happy marriage, with the best man in the world, I did not listen to the arguments, he is African, he will treat you like a dog,,,, I even had this one: "he will sell you !!!" ... :D Yeah... thank God I am Aries, I don't give a S#*t what people think :D I do my own!

I got pregnant while in school and just in the beginning of my 20th... and now, look M.I.A Is the most adorable, smart, foxy, annoying, lovable lil dude you will ever imagine (Yeah that is so called mommy hipper love :D)

I made my dreams come true, because I risked to be labeled BAD, CRAZY, DIFFERENT !!!

Yess I am bragging about it, and damn I can do it!!!

About getting old... let me tell you my goals.... me and Charles will have  become grey and bald, have a ton of grandchildren to whom we will secretly give candy and pepper :D we will have an airplane... people will know us, people will believe in them self because of us. Because we will never loose our dreams and hopes, we will never label something Bad! because somebody said it is bad, we will be ... we will be us... the ones who were different, who fought, who had good and bad times, we will be... the ones, our parents wished us to be... we will be GOAD *(yess it is my mix of Good and

Bad!:D )

So when You start thinkin- this dude is bad, what he thinks is bad, his idea is bad....

 think about if that is what actually kept you from reaching your own goal and you did not reach it because somebody did the same to you...so... Can You conceive of being .... a Sheep?