TO make a change even if it is for 1 person , the story of how I changed my coat and started to reach out to others

Sveiki!
As I am kind in the mood of change I wanted to bring up a topic what is kinda important for a lot of people- change!
Change- by this word what do You understand? Is it:

• Changing Your look
• Changing gadgets 
• Evolution
• Helping
• Inspire?

For me, it is all, but mostly to inspire and help others. I may not be able to change the world in one night, doubt that anyone can do that, it takes time, hard work, dedication and self improvement .
Michael Jacksons song Man in the Mirror has a perfect line-..

[I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .
As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favorite Winter Coat  ]

And as the title forecasts it , to make a change, You have to start with Your self.

Here Is my story of the evolution from Bully victim to, outcast , to a person who goes out and Fights for changes!

I wrote already about me, being badly bullied, the moment I changed and became the Bully of Bullies and finally evolved to a volunteer. But how did it start and what did I do?

Globally, it did not make a difference, but locally for some,    I kinda rocked their world, by showing YOU can make it and it does not matter where You come from or who You are.

My dream was to change the world to make it a better place , but is this not something we all want to?

It is, and that is the problem... Yes I said it...We all, are the problem why the change is not happening, but that is something different, for now, let me introduce that what I could do, what my friends did, and what kind of impact it made.

The Beginning.

Starts like a normal story we share, we see something we don't like we try to change it. Also my story started like this. Just with a pitch of... You know bad things, I disliked being bullied, and  I hated it the most when somebody else got bullied. So what to do? I change the game, I had recently got "Power " and a Name, so why not Use it? I started to become the bully of the Bullies...[ that is the story ] , sadly and same time lucky I understood fast that unlike in math where to - make + does not work with bad. 

SO... I started to encourage the ones who got bullied , I actually became their friend, and brought up their good sides. and  IT HELPED! The ones who made fun, got to understand, that  their object is actually pretty cool and the ones who got hurt understood, they are actually good {If You want to know more about this part feel free to ask, I just don't want to go into details as it would be too much }. SO I succeeded , what next?

Stage 2, Speaking to the Public!

As Most of my friends and school mates know I love to write, Poetry, short stories, plays... everything. I used to start it as self help for me, I used to put down everything I had on paper.[I believe I started it because I am terrible at singing, If asked to compare- Sound like; a zebra that is stuck in a crocodiles mouth screaming for help and while doing that chocking on mosquito...silent moment for imagination ]. 

So how did it became public? In my school and Country we havea literature month, where we learn a poem , play or story and verbally repeat it in public. And a classmate incurred me, to do one of my works.[I will post it up in the next blog°]I was 15 and I wrote my first short story called- The Power of Words, Later to find out it was one of my most Powerful social awareness speeches.

So I stood in front of my class mates (remember I was still shy)and I started the first line, about half of the class was already half asleep and the other part was making fun of me and my work... till they started to listen... till it got into them... till some of them shared a tear. At the end, they stood up the clapped their hands ,They Understood. And here my name as a freelanced writer began. I got to so many public events. People started to care for each other more, I felt like... I felt ... I can not describe it, it was divine.

But the biggest success was raising awareness from the Young about different problems, was it discrimination, was it helping those in need, was it caring more about people around. But for me the greatest success was that so many of my age mates saw that You can achieve Big if You reach out, If You do. Some  came up to me to thank me about letting down the standards and changing the game,give the courage in their own power . I triggered at least a small chain.

3. Understanding the way 

For a moment I stopped with the public appearances  as I moved to the Capital and had huge changes in my life. But I found out that the chain I started, hasn't stopped, so I was glad, and decided to take time... short time... So what happened?  I am reaching for higher goals, As I am a Young entrepreneur I kind know what goes in the "BIG world" and I dont like it!

As I once said, I can not discover a New America, but I can research the coasts better! So what to do?

Youngsters like me know, to find a good work place it is difficult there are 3 options

1. You know some one who knows some one
2. You see a job You know You would be perfect for but wont get it because You need exp.of like 2-3 years in that field [This is what I actually call B***SH**] 
3. You find only a very under payed job lose faith in You and become one of the gray public.

so what do I do? I give them a chance... Sound arrogant right?

Let me tell You then, I know about 30-50 people who haven't got a real work experience but proved them self to me and showed amazing results in the jobs they where given , with fresh ideas, unique ways of thinking, And I know about such as many Professionals who have a work exp. of a min of 10 years and fail from the beginning of. Where is my point? 

My point is that I will always give the first hand to the fresh cucumber that still has growing potential and a good possibility of becoming a great Business person opening new doors to others who my need it.

  I am " TAKING TERRITORIES" But I am not alone. there is a change coming like an avalanche and You can choose to flow with it or to fright against it !

 

Why do I do that? I got a second chance in a moment where I was in  the valley of the shadow of death, I got a hand who got me out, my Promised land is here and now, and It just becomes bigger, There was a person who did not turn her back on me, so I want to show that I wont turn my back on You! If at least one person was able to find its way out I have full filed my Goal, We are the world and it does not make a difference if it is 1k people or just 1 person! This was my story , what is Yours?

that You are not left alone?(True, life story )

I don't wanna be left
In this war tonight
Am I alone in this fight?
Is anybody out there?
Don't wanna be left left in this world behind
Say you'll run to my side

-K'NAAN feat. Nelly Furtado- Is anybody Out there-

This is what reminded me of my not so good past,

 but kinda gave me a comforting

 feeling. What by that time I Would not feel

but now with time changed my view on it. 

Ezigbo ụbọchị! - And welcome to the story of my life. So, do You know what means bullying ?- being bullied ? Verbally or physically ?  Well I know too. 

This is a story of me from the begging, to the point where I broke it .

P.S. I'm writing this because I barley found a place where there was a story of strong bullying with a happy ending. I just want to share how  I transformed from the girl- living punchbag, to social freak, then the bully of bullies and finally, just a normal person.

The Beginning

The beginning is easy, turned 6 started school,played , learned, got punched, came back with blue spots, broken things, made fun of. Quite usual scene right?

Well for me it was. And the worst part was- I never triggered a fight , not like I could control it- I was made fun of being different- darker, darker eyes, eyebrows, skin not pale or nicely brown tanned skin  (then I did not knew that I am a half Roma :) ) I was different, from most of those perfect latvian kids. + I was very thin and shy (actually I was scared of people) . The Bullying went into two forts 

1. Girls- Mostly verbally abusive, sometimes also light punches.

2. Boys- who where mean and used to Physically attacked me .

What did the grown ups do? they basically did that what was by that time normal and pedagogically painted as correct(LV is a post soviet Country what means when I was small, grown ups barley knew what it is to be socially or otherwise discriminated, not to mentions bullying ) , So I was said, to be patient, not to trigger more aggression,and try to take away from them the reasons why they bully me (hmm a six year old, has to think of how to change its color ???:D)

I did so, but it did not change------so one spring day some of my classmates followed me after school (On my way home there was a big deep Pound). As it was spring the sun had melted halfway the ice. so my classmates told me to climb the ice, if I don't want to get beaten up. As they where 3 and I one , my choice was clear. So I climbed on it. and the boys started to throw stones at me, so to force me to go closer to the place where the ice was so thing it started to break. I was in the middle of the pond and no grown ups around to see what was going on. The ice broke. the boys got scared and run away. I felt the cold, the fear, the moment where Your limbs start to have cramps. (As my mom is a swimming instructor and a life guard I been thought every possible thing what concerns water ), I got out. went home. Gave my mom almost a heart attack. And then my mom realized it was serious. The fact that I saved my self kinda gave my class mates respect, but kinda also scared them so I was left alone, no one contacted me, no one sat with me, no one really noticed me .
It was like that for quite some years...I was the greyest of the grey mice, the most invincible from the invincible ones. I was alone.
So I was 13 and met some girls, so called "BAD'' girls.  
And they took me up in their group, I met lot of people, who could not understand why do the "others'' (By others where ment all the people from upper class those who don't know any thing about street survival)  they liked me, the real, natural me. They build up my self-confidence, They gave me shelter. They became my family. As family we stood together. We did thing together.Now I realize-not so good things. 
Stage 2 starts.
I got bullied by revils and people who where scared of us . Same old story, beaten up, several times got struck by a knife, seen people loose limbs or life... Seen things. But I still had my family who believed in me. I understood I have power actually . So what do you do? You turn back and take revenge. I did so for a while, when my first police charge appeared and I got a guardian angel, A police woman who took her time for me and others. If You heard the story about that the police just want to arrest you and they don't care, Know for the majority it is true. But she was  different. After finding out I have a huge talent in languages (by that time I knew 5 languages now they are 8 ) she gave me a second chance. I took it.
And here comes the transformation [ A story after ]

I took my chance, I managed my anger, my pain, I found God.

Yeah sound cheesy , But by this time(I was 16 or 17) I got to understand one, why do people bully and that there actually is no way how to escape or stop it. that is just human, for some, because they have problems on their own. Unfortunate for the one who gets it.

What can help You? Forget about those who hurt YOU and don't show them Your weakness, better show them where they are wrong about you. Be Yourself, sooner or later You will find Your own group of people. Who will show you that You are actually quite nice. So did I . I found my best friends my family . I got the courage to help those who are still lost . I started small, and worked my self up from a voluntary in  police, charities, and just being a person to whom to talk to.

I understood no mater how bad the situation is, You will get out, you just have to fight for it.

I did it, and I still do. And I know You will too. 

You are not left alone, You just have to look out for us, US-the others who know what that means , who wont tell you just to avoid them or to talk to them

 

 

Having a small discussion with the public?

 Hey , so 
I thought of this as, let us know each other! You see my Ideas, some like them, some not so much,
But this is a community!
I read not too long ago, about how to become popular with Your blog and so on...Not as I seek for that , what caught my eye was the sentence about reaching out to more people, make Your view on different topics from a different angle. But there is a problem... there are so many Bloggers and some are so popular that they leave others in their shadow
SO (yeah here comes my question)... Even if You have no idea about me, but You know blogs witch are so so sooooooooo cool to You! Why don't You share it?
It does not matter witch topic-

• Art, style
• fasion
• religion
• politics
  Bussines,
• school
• reports 
• silly stuff.

Just paste it up under here in the comment box. And let us gather around the world to see other great writers 

Lets spread the world  of writing
Cheers !
With love,
The person who would really like to read Your work

that becoming a big fish is scary?

Bon dia! And here I go again. Just can not stop, yup, some who know me in person, if it is about free writing , I never get out of ideas or mood + lots of coffee....hmmm coffee-eeeh, yeah that is the biggest trick, but ok , lets get started, or as a young man once said (while taking a chocolate)- I got this!
So starting Your own huh?! what came into your mind- business, charity, book? or something else?
Well, it actually does not matter any more, everything now has basiclly the same ideals, steps and needs.
You know- Idea, followers , capital, A PLAN!!!But even so sometimes it may not work. Sad but true. But keep ya' head up. I dont know how many of You know this but this thing-

 

  a very good invention right? But here comes the shocker- GOT ITS PATENT DENIED!!!! only aprox.30 years later it got revived. what was the problem?- Good old friend of ours- Time! AHA- time, so if You have a great idea,but it may not turn out to become, so popular or successful, don't throw it out in the trash can. It may still come in  handy for You.

I have no Idea how it is called in English

So ok , one thing settled, but what comes after? - Stubbornness, patience some foxy thinking and little magic fairy dust (yeah, this tingy gets so rear these days but here is a hint how to make it- GET YOUR SELF TOGETHER !!! BECOME ACTIVE....NO-PRO ACTIVE AND MOVE!!!a little work never killed no body! )
After this if You manage it, what comes next?
As not so many people get to this point, then I will give You an insider!
It seems fascinating and amazing how some people become a success and make a fortune, but how does it feel?
Well first comes this overwhelming feeling (if You have a child it could be similar in the way how You felt after he or she was just born), then comes joy-FINALLY. But then the pink glasses fall down and You realize some big things are about to happen- and this is the part where it gets scary...
To have a better image of what I mean is- Imagine You are a gold fish, called - Start up. You have Your own place, no one is attacking You, you have one or two friends, and you just have to think of Things. Then You realize Your place is a bit too small, so You make plans to break out to the big world. You try, and try, fail, people laugh and make jokes about you. But then You add 1 and 1 together, and you don't just make a 2, you break the rules and make a 3,1342456445667......(n). You get out! You made it , and You land in the big water(Does not matter, Sea, lake, river, pound or you just evolve to the next living form) and You realize all the glory is actually scary. The jokes made, seem so tiny and the life, seems so different, even breathing is a new thing, You get exposed to lots of danger . And this is the part, where every story will divide in to parts.
1. You get scared, and because of that you forget Your goals, similar like in "The Hunger Games" where the players got zoomed up to the field. Some run directly to the equipment , and died.
2. You get back for a moment to clear Your head. You look who would be Your next opponent and have an eye on the big fish. You make plans with not just Plan A and B , You use the whole human known alphabet and number system, and You start playing chess. You learn strategy on a whole new level. And YOU WORK YOUR ASS OFF! DAY AND NIGHT, IN THE BATHROOM, WC, KITCHEN OR ON THE WAY , YOU ARE DEDICATED. If You do so , congrats, eventually You will make it. IF  YOU HESITATE FOR ONE MOMENT, then you may as well drop every thing!
So still thinking of starting YOUR own thing?

 

There is a country where Facebook is not the most popular site?

Добры дзень! (Belarussian- Good day :))
Hey sooooooooooooo, as said- can You conceive .... You probably have 2 thoughts now - 
1. Probably- Yeah that is probably Russia or China or S-Korea

2. PFFFfff wtf is that possible? 

















Well Yeah.. If You check my article- ezigbo-efife-let-me-make-you-think-of...    
You will read, remeber- the magical place where I am from. OHHH YEAH I MEAN this is - LATVIJA!!!!!  The only Place(where FB is not forbidden!!!!and people can freely use it but we chose not to ) where it is not Facebookionized (Yeah I do made up this word just now) 
Why is that so special? well for a magical Country with the best Hockey players, most BEaUTIFUL girls and DAYUMMMMM>>>>>>:3 handsome boys and the population of less then 2 million the majority still keeps up to Draugiem.lv.
Why? what is so special about it? well first of all, FB and dr.lv where build in the same year, just that one was a closed one, the other from the beginning an opened one(get up do research which one was witch one /detect the mistake here :D/). SOo. I dont want to make an anti marketing thing here, but, dr.lv is more friendlier to their users. and all upgrades are basicly the same as in face book, just they are more usesfull and they are brought up faster then facebook does its own. SO it is not  a copy cat. It has its ups and downs, but- it is more secure. And more original
to get more info about it here  a realistic (because mostly articles praise the subject they write ) view on it. http://www.baltic-course.com/eng/markets_and_companies/?doc=4876
Ohhh yeah Latvia. We will make it big, step by step
I believe FB should think of paying some billions to the Draugiem lv group to get their ideas and learn some one or two things of them 

This is how it feels to be from LV :)

Loving food like Diamonds and Rubbies?

Mirëdita! (Albanian Good day!) Been a while, but no worries, I did not loose my writing mood, was just busy with my Company . WORRRRKK!!!

But Yah I just witnessed something what just has to be sheared and given a thought.

Food! Yes oh, yes I say food!

Why so?

Hmm lets start , since the 90`s Girls are so into the skinny style! (Not all , some are just naturally thin. It is like we have a black hole or so, but the food magically vanishes, and no one knows where it stays ) BUT thanks to some healthy role models, a small change into the body standards has appeared . But still the skinny is sticking and follow like death. Unfortunaly the modern disease actually take lives, but away from sadness!

Considering extream cal. calculators aka diet people.

Some days ago saw a girl in the shopping mall, she picked small food packs and calculated how much calories she will consume and so. SO, what do I do? I stand right next to her, and put in my basket 3 peaces of bacon (the big fatty one), the Girls sees it - HER face expression full with disgust. But can I stand to that . No way - NOOO EFFIN WAY<WHAAY < DEY :D I had to pass her and say out loud _ I HOPE I WONT FINNISH IT IN ONE DAY !!!

Her face (No Lie---->

 

Ok , time pases and I forget my sweet meeting with her . TILL TODAY(BADUMMMM DU DUMM)

I have a meeting with my client, who happens to have a humore close to mine.

So we sit down and the same girl enters with a friend. 

The waitress comes up and asks: " What can I bring You?"

Girl: " hmm, the Green tea, how much calories, does it contain ?"

Waitress : I have no Idea.

Girl: How can You not know??

Waitress: I can Bring You the pack

Girl: Deamn You betta do

This was the waitresses face expression all the time :D

So what happens... My client sees my devilish face expression and I notice he develops the same so we agree to one thing CHEEEESE PLAAAATEE AND CHOCOLATE BEANS ,
Deamn In ya face :D Diet Gal!

  

But on top My client says

HmmYou have a good, clean skin, what is Your secret ?

Me: hmm wannna know? Really wanna know?

He: yeah 

Me: Eat every thing and make a topping of grilled cheese and mayonnaise !

Yup Both girls after what I said . Becouse They look like size 38 min, I am 32 or XS what means I am tiny :D

Needless to say, they left, the cafe burst-ed in laughter. AND I got FREE FOOD :D 

Sometimes You just have to love food more than Diamonds Like My Husband and Son. I think it is in the genetics or it's a sticky disease: ONCE YOU GO FOODIE,YOU NEVER GO BACK (hmm...FOO-OOOHD)

oh praise the yummies